Chastity can save your soul.
That may sound like an extreme statement, but it’s true.
Our society has perverted the purity of love into the corruption of lust. Most relationships shown in film and television are not love, but lust, where each person simply pursues their own pleasure. And once the relationship stops being “hot” or “romantic” or “loses steam” the lovers abandon each other to pursue the next lustful encounter.
Our children are bombarded with “lust as love” relationships over and over again. Do you think its taken a toll? Absolutely. Just look at what is accepted in society today. Continuously promoted ideas of sex without consequence and the complete acceptance of contraception and abortion.
You can boil down the differences between lust and love this way…
- Lust is selfish. Love is selfless.
- Lust is self-gratifying. Love is self-sacrificing.
As a matter of fact, all of the Seven Deadly Sins are selfish.
- Pride, Envy, Wrath, Sloth, Greed, Gluttony and Lust.
And all of the Seven Holy Virtues are selfless.
- Faith, Hope, Charity, Prudence, Temperance, Fortitude and Justice.
That battle between selfishness and selflessness is the clear dividing line between Evil and Good. Between Hell and Heaven.
Where do your relationships fall? Which side of the line do your actions lay?
And which side of the fence does Chastity fall? Is it selfish or selfless? Is it self-gratifying or self-sacrificing?
Why is this important? Because there is only one thing that can keep you out of Heaven. Sin. That’s it. There is no magic formula. It’s that simple.
But who decides what a sin is? Since sin is an offense to God, God decides. Not you, nor me, but God is the sole decision maker of what offends him.
When Adam and Eve bit from the tree of the knowledge of Good and Evil, it was so damaging because it made them think that, with that knowledge, THEY could decide what was sinful and what was not. It was the beginning of moral relativism.
And what is the consequence of offending God and sin? Death. That’s why Jesus’ resurrection gave us a path to overcome sin and death, through righteousness and holiness in His salvation.
But, if God is the only one who defines sin, then how do we know what truly offends him? If you believe in Divine Revelation, that God’s will regarding the salvation of men has been revealed to us in some way, then you must start with Sacred Scripture, the written Word of God.
For example, how do we know that God wants to reserve sex until after marriage? It’s in the first two chapters of Genesis.
Genesis 2:24: “For this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife; and they shall become one flesh.”
It’s all right there. Since the term “wife” is used, it means that they are married. And only after marriage do they become one flesh.
But, what about contraception? Where does it say that God doesn’t approve of contraception?
Genesis 1:27-28: “And God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. And God blessed them; and God said to them, Be fruitful and multiply…”
First they are married and then they become one flesh so they may be fruitful and multiply. That’s what God wants. That was his intent. Doing something else offends him. That’s not hard to understand, right? The meaning and expectations are clearly stated. So what’s the problem?
The problem is that people prefer lust to love. And they don’t want to give it up. “Who are you or some church leaders out there to tell me what I can and cannot do in the bedroom?”
Well, the Bible is also very explicit about fornication, adultery, sodomy and pornography. It’s all in there.
Look, the Church has one, simple job… to get you into Heaven. It’s not there to be popular or succumb to the societal whims of the day. It exists so that you will know what God expects of you so that you can, by your own free will, choose the difficult and holy path.
It is your decisions that will decide your eternal home. Nobody else’s.
And Satan has but one job… to keep you out of Heaven. He doesn’t care how you don’t go to Heaven, only that you don’t go to Heaven. So, he does two things…
- First he entices you to sin.
- Second, he convinces you it’s not a sin.
Ask Adam and Eve if that approach sounds familiar.
Satan and his fellow fallen angels never sleep. The will attack your weaknesses every moment of every day until you die, luring you to sin.
Sin damages your connection to God, slowing down the protective and renewing graces God provides us. And some sins, like the ones mentioned above, are so serious that they are deadly, as the Apostles Paul and John call them. They are also known as mortal sins. They completely sever you from God.
At that point, without proper reconciliation, you are lost. For how can one expect to spend eternity in the presence of God when you have, through your own decisions, chosen to sever yourself from him?
That’s why the Church teaches that anyone who dies with mortal sin on their soul must go to Hell, for Hell is the only place in existence where God is not present. For those who choose to remove God from their lives through sin, Hell is the only place in any realm that can house you after your death.
So, how can we save our souls?
First, seek out reconciliation with God. Jesus tells that the only way to guarantee damnation is through blaspheming the Holy Spirit, which means refusing God’s mercy. Seek out his mercy.
Second, you need to change who you are to who you need to be. When it comes to sexual relationships, that change begins with living a chaste life. And just as the Seven Holy Virtues cure the Seven Deadly Sins, so does Love cure Lust.
Convert your relationships from a self-gratifying, selfish focus and embrace selflessness and self-sacrifice.
After all, is not God’s love only selfless and self-sacrifice? Is not his mercy selfless? Is not Jesus passion and crucifixion self-sacrifice?
God gave us the ability to love so that it may reflect his love for us, not a perverted, selfish form of it.
He gave us marriage with the intention of becoming one flesh. This was a precursor to his marriage to his Church at Pentecost, where the Bridegroom (Jesus) and the Bride (the Church) become one as the Mystical Body of Christ.
What God has planned for you and your relationships is beautiful and holy and eternal. Become a reflection of God’s love to you in every aspect of your life, especially in your relationships with others.